9 sunnahs to teach your baby or toddler. These are things that you can start implementing into your little one's routine right now.
9 sunnahs to teach your baby or toddler. These are things that you can start implementing into your little one's routine right now.
Here are a list of ahadith on building good character for kids to memorize and implement in their lives. Download these hadiths with illustrations in pdf.
9 sunnahs to teach your baby or toddler. These are things that you can start implementing into your little one's routine right now.
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When your child does something that you see as wrong, what is your reaction to it? Do you get angry, annoyed or exasperated and do you start to yell, question, blame, shame, ridicule or find faults with your child? The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, was known to be kind and gentle, especially with children. He never did any of this. He was patient with children and the way he responded to them and corrected their behaviour is the example for us to follow. These are the things to keep in mind when you need to correct your child's behaviour: 1. Remain Calm For many of us, when we see an incorrect behaviour, our automatic reaction is to become angry. We see a behaviour that's not correct and instantly a record starts to play in our head of "What is he doing? I've told him/her before not to do that! Why is he doing that? Who does he think he is? How can he do this to me? Where does he get off doing what he does? When will he ever learn?" These are questions that make us angrier by the second. To stop this escalation, we need to seek refuge with Allah from shaytan and take deep breathes to calm us before we act. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, never acted out of anger or rashness. Not to children and not even to adults. Abu Hurairah said: "A Bedouin entered the mosque when the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) was sitting there, and (the man) said: ‘O Allah, forgive me and Muhammad, and do not forgive anyone else with us.’ The Messenger of Allah smiled and said: ‘You have placed restrictions on something that is vast.’ Then the Bedouin turned away, went to a corner of the mosque, spread his legs and began to urinate. After he had a better understanding, the Bedouin said: ‘He (peace and blessings be upon him) got up and came to me, and may my father and mother be ransomed for him, he did not rebuke me nor revile me. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "This mosque is not for urinating in. Rather it is built for the remembrance of Allah and prayer.’" Then he (peace and blessings be upon him) called for a large vessel of water and poured it over the place where I had urinated." (Sunan Idn Majah) Think back to a time when you were toilet raining your child and he accidentally urinated on your floor. What was your reaction? Did you get upset? The chances are that most of us would have been upset at the mess and having to clean up. I've seen parents who would get angry and start to blame and shame their child. The key is to control your emotions and remain calm. 2. Use a quiet speaking voice The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, never raised his voice. There are no hadeeth that describes the Prophet as yelling or shouting. A description of the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, says the opposite: Abu Abdullah Al-Khadali reported: I asked Aisha about the character of the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him. Aisha said, “The Prophet was not indecent, he was not obscene, he would not shout in the markets, and he would not respond to an evil deed with an evil deed, but rather he would pardon and overlook.” (Tirmidhi) Most of us when we're angry or upset, our voices are raised to a high pitch and we start to scream and shout. We need to remember the advise of Luqman to lower our voices: And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys. (Quran, Luqman 31:19) 3. Ignore the wrong behaviour Ignore it does not mean we don't deal with it. It means that we don't comment on it or refer to it at all. Most of us will make a point of highlighting the behaviour. We either criticise it or ridicule it and we blame or reprimand the person for doing it. Anas ibn Malik reported: I served the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, for ten years. By Allah, he never even said to me, “Uff!” He never said harshly for anything, “Why did you do that?” or, “Why did you not do that?” (Bukhari and Muslim) Like the hadith above in which the man urinated in the mosque, the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, didn't rebuke nor did he revile when someone did something wrong. 4. Instruct on the correct behaviour in a few concise sentences The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, never belaboured the point and never lectured on it. He gave instructions in as few short words as possible. Umar ibn Abu Salamah reported: I was under the care of the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, and my hand used to roam about the dish. The Prophet said to me, “O young man, mention the name of Allah, eat with your right hand, and eat what it is front of you.” (Bukhari and Muslim) In this hadeeth, you can see that the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him didn't rebuke the child for doing the wrong thing but he instead told the child the correct manner in which to eat in three short instructions: 1. Mention the name of Allah, 2. Eat with your right hand, and 3. Eat what is in front of you. This is easy for a child to remember. He, peace and blessings be upon him, didn't elaborate on it by going into a lecture. It was short and to the point. ***** If you like this article then please subscribe to my mailing list to keep up to date with future posts and more parenting tips and downloads that only my subscribers have access to. Fill in the form below: Subscribe to our mailing list * indicates required Email Address * First Name Last Name
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Here are a list of ahadith on building good character for kids to memorize and implement in their lives. Download these hadiths with illustrations in pdf.
What characteristics should a Muslim parent have? There are many but to make it easy to remember, I have chosen what I believe to be the five most important ones. 1. Kind and Merciful Being kind and merciful means that you treat your child well. It draws your child to you because he wants to be around the beauty that comes with kindness. Aisha reported (Muslim) that the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, kindness is not found in anything except that it beautifies it, and it is not removed from anything except that it disgraces it.” If you are not kind to your child then he will distance himself from you just as a cat runs away from an owner who mistreats it. Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, was the most kind yet Allah mentioned in the Qur'an that had he been unkind the people would turn away from him. “O Messenger of Allah! It is a great Mercy of God that you are gentle and kind towards them; for, had you been harsh and hard-hearted, they would all have broken away from you” (Quran 3:159). Both the young and old love Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him. They are drawn to him because he is kind, among other things. Narrated Malik bin Huwairth: We came to the Prophet and stayed with him for twenty days and nights. We were all young and of about the same age. The Prophet was very kind and merciful. When he realized our longing for our families, he asked about our homes and the people there and we told him. Then he asked us to go back to our families and stay with them and teach them (the religion) and to order them to do good things. He also mentioned some other things which I have (remembered or) forgotten. The Prophet then added, "Pray as you have seen me praying and when it is the time for the prayer one of you should pronounce the Adhan and the oldest of you should lead the prayer. Your child is most deserving of your kindness. He came from a part of you and needs to be nurtured. Nurturing can only be done with kindness. No good can grow from cruelty and harshness except unkindness itself. 2. Patient Anyone who has a child will know that it takes patience to interact with him.You need to be patient to teach, to respond, to talk, to play, to guide him and so on.You need to slow down to focus and think about how you're going to react to your child in a way that he will learn and benefit from each interaction. Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, was very patient with children even while he was busy as the following two ahadeeth illustrate. The first was during prayer when he lead the whole Muslim community and the second was while he was busy with guests. Imagine if the children had been treated impatiently and scolded, as some parents are likely to do nowadays, how they would have experienced a different type of upbringing! Abdullah Ibn Shidad relates that his father said: “The Messenger of Allah , peace and blessings be upon him, came to us either during the noon or afternoon prayers and he was carrying Hassan or Hussain. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, proceeded to the front and put him down and made the takbir for the salah. During the salah, he made a long sajdah. I raised my head and saw the child on the back of the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, while he was in sajdah. I returned to my sajdah. When the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, finished the salah, the people said to him: ‘O Messenger of Allah, you prostrated during your salah so long that we suspected you were thinking about some matter or you were receiving some revelation.’ He said: ‘None of that happened, but my (grand)son was resting and I hated to rush him until he had finished what he desired.”‘ Narrated Um Khalid (the daughter of Khalid bin Sa`id): I went to Allah's Messenger with my father and I was wearing a yellow dress. Allah's Messenger said, "Sanah, Sanah!" (`Abdullah, the narrator, said that 'Sanah' meant 'good' in the Ethiopian language). I then started playing with the seal of Prophethood (in between the Prophet's shoulders) and my father rebuked me harshly for that. Allah's Messenger said. "Leave her," and then Allah's Messenger (invoked Allah to grant me a long life) by saying (thrice), "Wear this dress till it is worn out and then wear it till it is worn out, and then wear it till it is worn out." (Bukhari) Being patient means that you don't berate nor blame your child. Narrated by Anas (Bukhari), “I served the Prophet for ten years, and he never said to me, ‘Uff’ (a minor harsh word denoting impatience) and never blamed me by saying, ‘Why did you do so or why didn't you do so?’” We are commanded in Qur’an to be patient to parents and not to say ‘uff’ to them("And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word." Qur'an: Isra 17:23) but Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, didn’t evensay ‘uff’ to children. This is patience. 3. Affectionate To be affectionate means that you show your child how much you love him. Some ways to show your affection is to embrace, kiss, touch, hold, pat, stroke and so on. Use your whole body language, gestures and facial expressions to do so. Narrated Usama bin Zaid: Allah's Apostle used to put me on (one of) his thighs and put Al-hasan bin 'Ali on his other thigh, and then embrace us and say, "O Allah! Please be Merciful to them, as I am merciful to them. " (Bukhari) Being affectionate is a part of being kind and merciful to your child. It lets him know that you love him. Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle kissed Al-Hasan bin Ali while Al-Aqra' bin Habis At-Tamim was sitting beside him. Al-Aqra said, "I have ten children and I have neverkissed anyone of them," Allah's Apostle cast a look at him and said, "Whoever is not merciful to others will not be treated mercifully." (Bukhari) If you don't show your affection then your child will not know that you love him. Don't leave him in doubt and wondering about your affections. It will affect his confidence and self worth. 4. Lenient Make it easier for your child to be good and do good by being lenient on him. As long as you've established the boundaries that he cannot overstep then be easy on him. When there are options always pick the easier one. Don't complicate things. Narrated Aisha: “Whenever Allah's Apostle was given the choice of one of two matters, he would choose the easier of the two, as long as it was not sinful to do so, but if it was sinful to do so, he would not approach it...” (Bukhari) When you make it easy for your child to do good then he is more likely to be good. If your child makes a mistake or forgets then there is no need to scold him. These are things that can be forgiven because there is no malicious intent attached. If Allah can forgive these for the ummah then you should be able to forgive them in your child. On the authority of Ibn Abbas, the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:"Verily Allah has pardoned for me my ummah: their mistakes, their forgetfulness, and that which they have been forced to do under duress." (Ibn Majah) Being strict on your child would lead to rebelliousness and resentment. Too much of it and your child will keep away from you. As the saying goes, you can attract with honey and not with vinegar. Leniency is the honey. 5. Guiding The Muslim parent doesn't leave things to chance. You teach, give advice and guide your child. When you see that your child needs to learn something or that he needs to be corrected then you teach in a manner that is easy to understand and devoid of lecturing. (Lecturing is when you repeat yourself over and over again!) Abu al-‘Abbas ‘Abdullah bin ‘Abbas reports:“One day I was riding (a horse/camel) behind the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, when he said, ‘Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of God, and He will take care of you. Be mindful of Him, and you shall find Him at your side. If you ask, ask of God. If you need help, seek it from God. Know that if the whole world were to gather together in order to help you, they would not be able to help you except if God had written so. And if the whole world were to gather together in order to harm you, they would not harm you except if God had written so. The pens have been lifted, and the pages are dry.’” (Tirmidhi) When Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, corrected a child he didn't yelled at him or berated. Instead, he corrected the child by giving instructions in a kind and straightforward manner. There was no preaching. It was short, simple and to the point. Omar Ibn Aby Salamah narrated, “I was a little boy sitting on the Prophet’s lap and my hand is all over the plate, then the Messenger of Allah said to me: “O boy, say ‘Bismillah’ (In the name of Allah), eat with your right hand and eat from what’s in front of you.” [Agreed upon] Do you have these qualities of a Muslim parent? Do you need help to develop some of them? If on some days you find it hard to have patience with your child or to show him your affections then join me in the '5 Qualities of A Muslim Parent' online course. Maybe you need ideas on how to guide your child or maybe you have all these qualities and want to refresh them. Come join my community of Muslim parents as we seek to improve our parenting and give each other support. There are 13 lessons of putting into action the practice of being kind, patient, affectionate, lenient and guiding to your child. With each lesson there is a simple task to do. You can then go to my private parenting Facebook group ‘Better Muslim Parenting’ and discuss what you did, how it went and what you've learnt or anything about that day's task. If you do the work each day then you will come out with a better way to parenting your child. What would changing the way you parent your child do to your relationship with him or her? To find out more about Islamic Parenting, please read my article on 'Principles of Islamic Parenting'. This is the foundation on which the 5 Qualities of a Muslim Parent is based. If you're interested in joining the 5 Qualities of A Muslim Parent program then click here to find out more about it.
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