In her new monthly comic series, Bianca Xunise invites us along on her journey exploring the many uncertain facets of millennial adulthood. This month: Turning 31.
I've struggled with anxiety for many years, and so I've made it my mission to share my experiences to inspire fellow sufferers to live a fulfilled life!
Things not to say to someone in their 30s: “Do y’all not want kids?” “Well you don’t have kids so you don’t understand….” “So I guess you’ll just be a dog mom…” These are all questions or comments that have been told or asked to me. Like people have actually asked me the first question multiple times. And it’s not their fault- they can’t read my mind and see the hurt or desperation in my heart. Something else no one tells you about having babies: if you do not have them in the “right time-frame”, people will automatically just assume you do not want them. It hurts my heart when I have to awkwardly explain WHY I don’t have kids yet. Sometimes I just want to scream at strangers and say, “Well, yea we want them! But it’s not WAM BAM THANK YA MA’ME= baby for everyone.” Of course I would never and have never said anything like that because then it would be an awkward sitch. Infertility and Holidays Holidays: I hate the word trigger because it’s such an annoying AF buzz word right now, but that’s exactly how holidays feel. It doesn’t even have to be one of the big ones. Even the small holidays can be hard. True story these are actual announcements found on Google. Lolol. “This Columbus Day we discovered little Johnny is due in March!”, or Earth day “We planted a seed this Earth day! Little Susie is growing until December!” I just want to say this: as hard as pregnancy announcements are to see, I am ALWAYS so excited for the person posting it. The sucker-punch to the gut felt afterwards eventually does goes away. I always love seeing them because I am so excited for that person. It may be there first or third, but the excitement for them is bigger than my sadness. When I eventually get pregnant- and I will because even after all these years I have faith that our dreams, prayers, and wishes will come true- I will 1000% post the cheesiest announcement ever. ***Crosses fingers that it is around Halloween and I can have some creepy, morbid announcement*** I have had people send me messages after they post their announcements to see how I’m doing. I’m always amazed that I get messages from people I haven’t spoken to in YEARS. So many women message me just to tell me they are going through the same things as me. It’s a shitty sitch to be in, but one you most definitely aren’t alone in. There are LOTS of people on social media that post raw emotions and helpful tips to get through these emotional sitches. Ahem–> see this blog! And if you ever need an ear, I am here too! A Rainbow After the Storm? As everyone reading this most likely knows, I had weight-loss surgery about four months ago in hopes to get my weight down low enough to move forward with fertility treatments. I’m happy to say I am HALFWAY to my goal as of this week! They ( the bariatric doctors) don’t want you to get pregnant for 12-18 months after your surgery in hopes that you lose the most weight you can. What this means for me is this: I will start the consultation process in the Spring for my fertility treatment! I am hoping that by the time I reach my one year surger-versary in July, that I will go be at my goal and looking like a hot mama-to-be! Next time I will tell y’all about the procedure I am looking in to!
My husband and I happen to have kids in ages that are decent gap between them (and it wasn’t planned!). Right now his oldest is 14, then I have a 7 year old and we had a baby together who is …
I've found myself in a spot of bother. It has come to my attention recently that I sufferer from an affliction that finds me permanently single, writes JANA HOCKING.
Stop chasing perfection. No one expects you to be perfect anyway (and if they do, kick 'em to the curb!).
Since I first learned to read, I’ve always been pretty interested in reading books that were well beyond my age group or understanding. Although my mother never really monitored or censored my reading material, there was still something that felt…
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Every generation goes through a unique set of joys and challenges, and millennials, born somewhere between 1981 and 1996, are in no way an exception.
The older we get, the wiser we become. And, I cannot help but wonder how different my life would be now had I known this 40-year-old wisdom in my 30s.
The demands of adulthood can be particularly intense during our 30s. And for that reason, it’s so easy to prioritise work and family over our own personal interests. But it’s important to remember that life is about more than just work and socialising. Life is about personal growth and self-discovery.…
As a single, heterosexual college-educated black woman in my 30s, I’ve never thought of myself as a “bachelorette.” Even before the female-led spinoff...
If you feel like you have gaps in your knowledge, this TikToker is here to share relatable tips to help you better navigate everyday life.
I was in my early 30’s when I realized that my hair was thinning. I had never before been a “hat guy” but decided it might be a good idea to start searching for my style. I soon found that there were a number of rules related to hat wearing and gentlemanly etiquette, and quickly learned these hat tips (or Hatiquette).
Hi everyone! Made some recolors in my personal Decades challenge and thought I'd throw them out here for any other historical simmers to populate their surfaces. They are very simple 1-swatch (sorry!)...
