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Liars have a tendency to dupe their most trusted ones without even batting an eyelid. however, you can look out for a few obvious signs you are being lied to.
The Grouchy Ladybug is a story I read many times to my own children, and to my elementary students. Eric Carle's story is about an irascible ladybug who picks a fight with a polite ladybug, but after determining that the other ladybug is not big enough to fight her, she flies off to find someone who is. Every character she meets is bigger than the one before, and every single time, the cantankerous little insect declares, "Oh, you're not big enough!" and flies away. What is it about "ENOUGH" that hits a nerve with me? Depending on how the word's used, I feel calm and satisfied, or I feel threatened and anxious. Words are so powerful. I love the phrase in Sara Bareilles' song, "Brave," that says "words can be a weapon or a drug." It depends on how we say them. It depends on how we hear them. Consider the following: "May you always have enough. Enough time; enough food; enough love." *SIGH* Doesn't that feel reassuring? But whenever I hear that someone doesn't feel like they ARE enough, I feel incredibly sad. "I'm not thin enough, pretty enough, good enough, smart enough." Those comments do not have a calming effect, and have no place in our self-talk. They make me prickle. Having enough is circumstantial, and may vary moment to moment. Being enough is existential, and should be a constant in our lives. And yet... Several years ago, I went to counseling. Maybe it was a mid-life crisis; maybe I felt a little crazy, but I definitely needed someone to listen to me, and help me sort my thoughts. Each time I walked up the creaking steps of the old bank building on the corner, I would wait my turn in the little makeshift waiting area, sitting near a small book shelf with a radio softly playing the local country station, so I couldn't overhear someone else's session, I suppose. When it was my turn, I would enter the therapist's office, and sit on one end of the couch, making note of where the tissues were, and checking the time. I figured if I talked faster, I'd get more accomplished. I just wanted to fix myself soon, so I could feel better, and get rid of the dark cloud hanging over my head. We would discuss my marriage, my children, my teaching; blah blah blah. Every week, for months, nothing seemed to change. I didn't feel like myself. I was dissatisfied; I was irritable; I had lost my joie de vivre. And every single week, I would be asked the same question. "Denise, why don't you think you're a good mother?" WHAT? How could she possibly think I thought that? I love my kids. They are my life. How could she think that I thought I wasn't a good mom? I have good kids, so of course, I was a good mother. How dare she? If I were so offended by her question, why did I keep going back? I suppose I thought I deserved to feel ridiculed, I deserved to feel bad. Like a whipped puppy, each week, I would return, seeking reassurance, wondering if I would ever find the answers to the unasked questions in my heart. Toward the end of each session of her listening to me answer her questions, I could count on her to ask me the same dreaded question: "So, Denise, why don't you think you're a good mother?" And at the end of each session, I would defend myself, saying, "I AM a good mother." I would go home, angry, wondering why she kept harping on that. I perhaps wasn't the BEST mother, but I was no Joan Crawford/Mommie Dearest. What working mother doesn't doubt her abilities to juggle work and family? Of course, I had my concerns, but I believed I was a good mother. One afternoon, after endless weeks of being asked this one question, I finally snapped. I'd had it. I sat up a little taller, and I leaned toward my counselor, and with a voice louder than perhaps that little radio in the waiting area could conceal, I spoke my mind. "I am so sick of your asking that same question every single week. Why do you keep doing that? Every time I come here, I can count on you to ask me that question. It's driving me crazy. I go home so mad every time that you ask that, which has been every single time. You must think I'm a terrible mother to keep asking me that. WHY DO YOU KEEP DOING IT?" Slowly, she readjusted herself in her chair, and with an earnest look in her eyes, she leaned forward, and said softly, "Denise, I believe you are a wonderful mother. You truly are a good mother. I just don't think you BELIEVE that. Do you? Do YOU believe that you are a good mother?" I couldn't believe it. Did she seriously just ask me that again? In my frustration, I started to cry. "I AM a good mother. I have wonderful children. I KNOW I am a good mother." A switch flipped just then. My tears were falling, unchecked. "I'm just not good ENOUGH." Her eyes crinkled as her mouth formed a small smile. She handed me some tissues, and she patted my arm. "Now we're getting somewhere." It took a few minutes for me to stop sobbing. It was as if a heavy weight were lifted off of my shoulders. When I could speak, I told her, "If I were good enough, my children would always be happy. If I were good enough, life wouldn't be so hard for my kids. If I were good enough, my children wouldn't give in to temptations, and they would never get in trouble. If I were good enough, my children would never doubt themselves, or how much I love them. I can never be good enough." I had finally confessed my sins, and released the pain I had been carrying with me all of that dark, dark time. As we talked, I came to understand although I allowed my children to make their own decisions, I wasn't really letting them own those choices, and the consequences that naturally followed. I was taking on too much. I needed to let them decide for themselves, and be there for them when they made mistakes. I didn't expect them to be perfect; why was I holding myself to such a high standard? It really was never about me. I had so much to learn about control, and how little I actually have. It has been years since than painful day. I am still learning. I understand better that I have no control over others, but I can control how I react to situations. I have come to realize that not only am I a good mother and a good person, I am good enough. My breathing slows whenever I say that. It is so comforting to tell myself that, and to finally believe it. Maybe you don't believe you are enough. You are; I promise. Say it with me. "I am good enough." Say it again. "I am good enough." We are good enough, just as we are, without changing a thing. That isn't to say we don't have goals and dreams and hopes for better things ahead. For now, dwell in this moment, and know that everything is going to be all right. There is goodness in this moment for you to find. You are safe. You are okay. You are good enough. Sometimes, just knowing that you are enough is enough.
Did you shag that numpty?
I need to learn to be okay with failure. To accept my own imperfections and to let things go. Doing so will enable me to take risks and try new things. There is a risk that it won’t turn out well, but to not take the chance is far worse. Whats the alternative? To live out my life, never leaving th
There seems to be a secret formula for the most successful and creative people out there. The ability to rise above the rest and make something amazing takes plenty of strength, support and timing. It also takes strategy, and this list of r
Look, everyone has bad days, everyone has their own struggles, and there are moments when everyone thinks of giving up. But also, everyone deserves a nudge in the right direction, some advice and wisdom, and some encouragement. There’s no shame in getting inspired by others, and we need some motivation to draw from time to time.
There is nothing more satisfying than saying "screw you" to the one who broke your heart. These break up quotes will help save your sorry, hurting soul from the heartbreak.
Not all home businesses require several thousand dollars in initial investment. These 15 home business ideas have low startup costs.
When I was flying to Chicago a few weekends ago, I struck up a conversation with my airplane neighbor who, as it turns out, changed …
Have you ever found yourself wondering about what could have been? Some of us often find ourselves in nostalgic moves as we go over all the people we have met and loved along the way. It can sometimes be tough to put those feelings to rest. However, texting an ex-partner might not be the best way to bring those memories back to life. After all, there’s usually a reason for the split and trying to reignite the flame might be too much to handle.Not only was this person thinking about their past relationship, but they had grand ideas about how they could rekindle it in the future. Sadly, the other person didn’t feel the same way. Thankfully, the person had themselves covered with a smooth plan. Merely claim ignorance – and the rest is history. It’s a perfect plan that will surely never fail.
Intuitive art is a way of creating art that aims to explore and uncover aspects of the inner self. And just like my previous: 10 Usef...
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N: Not Your Age You are not your age. We are not our age. I am not my age. No, we are all much more than that. Our age is simply a tick mark on the calendar. It is nothing that defines us. At which…
This is yet another fantastic piece covering Positive Psychology by information designer Anna Vital (the other ones I published on Mappalicious can be found here and here). Share and enjoy!
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Having a crush on someone can make you feel like you're walking on air when you're around that person and these 45 crush quotes hit home.
From avoiding people who haven't left their existing relationship, to not accepting lazy communication, Natalie shares 12 core boundaries to live by.
Timeless advice from bestselling author Stephen King on how to be an excellent writer.
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Think smarter, better, and faster. Clear thinking is the key to truth, wisdom, and knowledge. Whether it's from ourselves or others, we rarely see the world as it really is. We aren't able to think clearly. We build our beliefs on lies, assumptions, and deceptions. This ends now. Practical methods to never be fooled, stop making mistakes, and avoid traps. The Art of Clear Thinking takes an in-depth look at the everyday illusions we come across, and how to defeat them once and for all. What makes us jump to conclusions, evaluate incorrectly, and consistently make errors when we should know better? Why do we act against our own interests so frequently? It's just how we're wired. But it doesn't have to stay that way. This book gives you the tools to clear the fog from your eyes and simply think smarter. Practical methods to instantly be quick-witted, more insightful, and think more critically. Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. He has sold over a million books. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. Discover and avoid biases, blind spots, and poor logic. -The key to intellectual honesty and the biggest obstacle (that you control). -Just how flawed and biased your perceptions, perspectives, and feelings are. -Real logic and the fake logic people try to use to fool you. -How to think independently without being influenced by others. -Principles from some of history's greatest thinkers: Descartes, Darwin, Einstein, and more. | Author: Patrick King | Publisher: Pkcs Media, Inc. | Publication Date: December 06, 2019 | Number of Pages: 202 pages | Language: English | Binding: Paperback | ISBN-10: 1647430666 | ISBN-13: 9781647430665
This will be quite a short post. But sometimes easy does it. So, I hope it will be the case. I would love to explain the usage and form of Used to here. To achieve this I have created the following mind map: Used to – mind map In this mind map I try to […]
Intersex is an often misunderstood term at best, but being intersex is as common as being a redhead. And we don't try to change redheads.
Rejection hurts so much!!! Isn't it? But, rejection - be it in love, work, friendships - is a part of life. It is inevitable, so the key is to accept it. How?
They're an inexpensive and easy way to make boring standard-issue walls way more inviting, and would also make awesome gifts for a teacher.
