This is part two of a very occasional series of posts about my take on different psychological theories. Earlier this year I took a look at Urie Bronfenbrenner's ecological approach to life. Who knew this would be my most popular post? As of this evening, over 4,430 people have viewed that blog entry. I'm thankful that the post is so popular: my human met him once and found him to be a very kind man. Children love and want to be loved and they very much prefer the joy of accomplishment to the triumph of hateful failure. Do not mistake a child for his symptom. -- Erik Erikson Today we draw our attention to Erik Homberger Erikson. Please note, this is someone radically different from the conservative commentator Erick Erickson. The two would have very little in common in their world views. Erik was born on June 15, 1902 in Frankfort am Main, Germany. After graduating from high school, he moved to Florence Italy to study art. By 1927 he was teaching a a psychoanalytically informed school for children in Vienna that was started by Dorothy Burlingham and Anna Freud. Deeply influenced by this work, Erikson earned a certificate from the Maria Montessori School and later did psychoanalytic training at the Vienna Psychoanalytic Institute. After graduating from the psychoanalytic institute in 1933, Erikson and his wife fled the Nazis who had come to power in Germany. His long career included positions at Massachusetts General Hospital Judge Baker Guidance Center, Harvard Medical School, and University of California Berkeley. While in California Erikson studied children on a Sioux reservation for a year as well as children in the and Yurok tribe. Erikson left Berkeley when professors were asked to sign a loyalty oath. He returned to Massachusetts first working at the Austen Riggs Center for a decade and finally returning to Harvard. He remained a professor of human development at Harvard University until he retired in 1970. Erik Erikson's highest academic degree was a high school diploma. In 1973 the National Endowment for the Humanities selected Erikson for the Jefferson Lecture, which is the US government's highest honor for achievement in the humanities. His lecture was entitled "Dimensions of a New Identity." Enough background information. Onto the good stuff. This chart is the most commonly learned distillation of Erikson's work. Sorry his name is spelled wrong in the chart. It seems there is a lot of confusion about the proper spelling of his name. The spelling I'm using, Erik Erikson, is the correct way. So when you think about it, puppy development and human development isn't all that different. I'm not so sure dogs really ever get past adolescence. That's okay though, I think you all like us just the way we are. Here is Erikson's theory, as it applies to humans, in a nutshell: The infant's first social achievement, then, is his willingness to let the mother out of sight without undue anxiety or rage, because she has become an inner certainty as well as an outer predictability. -- Erik Erikson Early in life both babies and puppies face a crisis: trust versus mistrust. If the world is safe enough, and we are cared for well enough, we develop a sense of stability and security. If we work through this well we approach the world with a confident curiosity. If problems happen (abuse, neglect, deprivation) we learn the world is unsafe, we lose our curiosity, and become closed off and hidden. We learn to hope. Always moving forward, our next crisis is autonomy versus doubt. Ever spend time with a two year old that constantly says no? Play a game with a very young child who insists on controlling every dimension of the game? Early on, youngsters learn a delicate balance between autonomy and interdependence. How many parents, in a demand for discipline, demand complete obedience from their children at all times? Too much of a demand for a child to bend to the will of an adult can create deep feelings of shame, incompetence, and out of control behaviors. Striking a successful balance creates creatures who remain curious, have built in self control, and have a certain degree of autonomy. We learn will. Children must eventually train their own children, and any impoverishment of their impulse life, for the sake of avoiding friction, must be considered a possible liability affecting more than one lifetime. -- Erik Erikson Next up comes initiative versus guilt.Young ones busy themselves learning about the world around them. Square pegs fit in square holes. Round pegs fit in round holes. Sugar spilled on the floor makes mom crabby. We learn to count, speak, and ask for things with ease. We start to engage in activities. We want to play with that game. We want to walk in this direction. We start to take risks and learn how to keep ourselves safe (look both ways before we cross the street!). Good enough parents encourage and support children's efforts toward their own goal directed activities in realistic ways. When things go wrong and parents actively discourage children's independent activities (or belittle their activities), children can develop guilt about their needs, desires, and activities. We learn purpose. The next crisis we all face is industry versus inferiority. During these years, our primary years of school, we find our self confidence. Now having developed goal directed activity, our activity becomes productive. We create the things we need. Words come together to form sentences. Sentences come together to form paragraphs. Paragraphs come together to form stories. Good enough parents share a sense of excitement in what their children create. When things go wrong, and children are ridiculed or unable to meet adult expectations, children internalize a sense of inferiority We learn competence. Every adult, whether he is a follower or a leader, a member of a mass or of an elite, was once a child. He was once small. A sense of smallness forms a substratum in his mind, ineradicably. His triumphs will be measured against this smallness, his defeats will substantiate it. The questions as to who is bigger and who can do or not do this or that, and to whom—these questions fill the adult's inner life far beyond the necessities and the desirabilities which he understands and for which he plans. -- Erik Erikson As childhood rolls into adolescence, we face the crisis of identity versus role confusion. Having built confidence in our abilities, we start to look for our place in our world. We ask the question "Who am I and where am I going?" In this time of development we find ourselves at a crossroad of development where we consolidate the rapid development of childhood and walk across the bridge to adulthood. Given enough time and space to explore the different roles society has to offer us, a young person can freely experiment and explore many different kinds of identities. A good enough parent will let their adolescents stretch and reach into all sorts of different identities while also offering some loose protective boundaries. Restrictive and domineering parents can clip the experiences of an adolescent and prevent them from finding a sense of identity that can haunt them long into their adulthood. We learn our identity. As our adolescence grows into young adulthood, we grapple with issues of intimacy versus isolation. Having found our identities we no longer need to destroy things that threaten our sense of self. We ask of ourselves if we are loved and wanted, and whether we will share our life with someone or live alone. Done well we find ourselves forming long-term commitments to others through intimate and reciprocal relationships. Done poorly, we find ourselves isolated. We learn love. As young adulthood moves into middle adulthood, we face the crisis of generativity versus stagnation. We ask of ourselves, "Will produce something of real value?" We find our way to contribute to society developing a sense of generativity, productivity, and accomplishment. Through our work we provide something toward the betterment of society and future generations. Done poorly we feel stagnated, dissatisfied, and disconnected from a sense of purpose. We learn care. As adults grow into elders, we face the crisis of ego integrity versus despair. Our work gradually slows and our attention turns inward toward contemplating our accomplishments. Done well, we see ourselves has having created a successful life. Done poorly we review our lives and feel we haven't reached our goals and we despair. We learn wisdom. Healthy children will not fear life if their elders have the integrity enough not to fear death. -- Erik Erikson
Teaching your child how to properly interrupt while showing respect for their elders
How did a stay at home mom make money working from home? Selling stuff on Amazon of course!
This focaccia is one of my favorites. It's springy, light pink, bubbly, and super satisfying to work with. Plus, you don't need a mixer to make it! Just a bit of time, counter space, and patience.
Quilt Humor Quilters love to laugh! Here is some quilting humor and MEMEs to share with your quilty friends.
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Tips for staying calm, calming your child, and tools that they can use anywhere.
PARTICULARLY SPECIAL! WHY? Hilda Cowham was an unknown to me, until several years ago, now I can't get enough of her. This illustration in particular is the essence of her style--opulent costumes, candy colors, evoking fantasy and charm. And that's why it's PARTICULARLY SPECIAL! Oh, how simply gorgeous! Awe inspiring illustration from the hand of the talented golden age illustrator, Hilda Cowham. Rarely seen, this illustration would be perfect framed for a little girl's room. The colors are divine, and the style soft and blended, to give it that ethereal look. It would be amazing framed, but can also be used in your scrapbooking, paper crafts, jewelry making, whatever strikes your fancy! Ready for you to print out! Total print size- 5.65" x 8" including title And 5.853" x 8" You are purchasing an incredibly sharp, clear, digital image scanned at a high resolution, 300dpi in jpg form. Once payment is received, you will be able to INSTANTLY DOWNLOAD YOUR IMAGE(S). Our images can fit on 8.5 x 11 paper. **THE ANNOYING WATERMARK WILL NOT APPEAR ON YOUR DOWNLOAD** What fabulous things can you create? Announcements, Invitations, and place cards, (think wedding, engagements, baby!) Paper Arts: Jewelry: Used on transfers: Print and Frame For: Greeting cards Earrings Tee-shirts Baby's Nursery Stationery Bracelets Tote bags Child's Room Bookmarks Necklaces Pillows Wall Decor Gift tags Napkins Scrapbooking Dish towels Altered Art Ribbons Card Making And any magical thing your artistic bent can create! The Fine Print (No pun intended) Do's Do make fantastico art with our digital delights! Don'ts Do not use our images in digital collage sheets, resell them, reproduce them in a compilation cd for resale, or share them with buddies. We and our little elves work tirelessly to ferret out special pieces of paper ephemera, which we then scan and restore to perfection for the discerning creative customer. Taking our work and reselling or redistributing is not only bad form, it angers our little pals. And you don't want to make an elf mad! So please refrain from practices that you would not want done to your artwork. Thank you!
Helping a young man with depression reminded me of my own struggles, and how challenging the journey is.
Vestibular input activities can provide some of the best stimulation for active sensory seeking kids which can keep their sensory needs met for hours.
A Pretty Liberty Print Wand that can be made with any of the Prints pictured on the last of the listings pictures. Wrapped with tissue paper and in its own letterbox size box. Message to add a personalised clay tag to go with it! Ribbon that will be on the Wand may differ from the pictures but will be equally as pretty and complimentary. ⭐️ I can make bulk orders for a cheaper price please message to arrange/enquire ☺️ All orders are sent second class (3-5 working days) postage upgrade to first class for £1 on listing.
Hello to all of my new followers and Happy New Year! I'm glad you are here! I hope you had a relaxing winter break and are ready for the ...
There are many reasons why your baby may stop coming down your vagina during your delivery. There is one single thing that will work best.
Doctors have been decoding our pee and poo since medieval times. They even have handy visual guides.
Spring break makes me so excited (i love to sleep in!) but then i do this dread thing like how do i keep my kids entertained when the weather is iffy at best! So i
This Calming Find It Game is perfect for changing a child's focus from being upset to concentrating on finding fun objects in a find it game. I love
A unique ceremony to celebrate you on your journey into mothering your first or second or third babe. What is a mother blessing? A Blessingway was a ceremony that came from First Nations American Indians. I do not like to call my ceremonies by the same name as I do not come from this lineage. However I do like to mention them in my work as i find it important that other humans on this earth honoured the Mother in her sacred birthing journey as this is not something that is so common in our modern western dominant culture. My ceremonies are my own Ritual that is curated for you, and by you alongside me and also in collaboration with your loved ones or close friends. I will set up the space and facilitate the ritual aspect and then if there are other offerings your close friends bring we will add them in to the day (e.g belly painting, crafting, bellydancing, creating birth affirmation art) Together we will invite your nearest and dearest asking them to bring along A blessing for you on your birthing journey. This could be a written blessing, a spoken blessing or something unique they've created for you. I also ask that they bring a bead that hold significance to them or their blessing for your birth and a plate of food to share. This ceremony is also different to what we see now in the West as a, Baby Shower, as a baby shower is generally to bring gifts for the baby. A mothers blessing is for Mama. You are of course welcome to have a baby shower too however my passion is in Blessing the Mother. These loved ones who come along will hold you through this journey, through birth and beyond. You can call upon their love and strength during your birthing. After the ritual will craft, sing or dance whatever your ceremony is calling for and then of course we will snack on delicious foods and I will bring a raw treat or something savoury and delicious according to your dietry requirments. *Please when you fill out the purchase details leave your phone number so I can contact you directly. I cannot wait to be a part of your sacred journey.
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FYI! This is a smaller illustration, and is prized accordingly. Beautiful! From an antique childrens book. The illustration would be amazing framed, but can also be used in your scrap-booking, paper crafts, jewelry making, whatever strikes your fancy! Ready for you to print out! Total print size- 3.85" x 5" You are purchasing an incredibly sharp, clear, digital image scanned at a high resolution, 300dpi in jpg form. Once payment is received, you will be able to INSTANTLY DOWNLOAD THE IMAGE. Our images can fit on 8.5 x 11 paper. **THE ANNOYING WATERMARK WILL NOT APPEAR ON YOUR DOWNLOAD** What fabulous things can you create? Announcements, Invitations, and place cards, (think wedding, engagements, baby!) Paper Arts: Jewelry: Used on transfers: Print and Frame For: Greeting cards Earrings Tee-shirts Baby's Nursery Stationery Bracelets Tote bags Child's Room Bookmarks Necklaces Pillows Wall Decor Gift tags Napkins Scrap-booking Dish towels Altered Art Ribbons Card Making And any magical thing your artistic bent can create! The Fine Print (No pun intended) Do's Do make fantastico art with our digital delights! Don'ts Do not use our images in digital collage sheets, resell them, reproduce them in a compilation cd for resale, or share them with buddies. We and our little elves work tirelessly to ferret out special pieces of paper ephemera, which we then scan and restore to perfection for the discerning creative customer. Taking our work and reselling or redistributing is not only bad form, it angers our little pals. And you don't want to make an elf mad! So please refrain from practices that you would not want done to your artwork. Thank you!
My First Cuddly has been designed to be baby’s first toy. It is small enough to be popped into a pocket or nappy bag, to have on hand when needed. I would recommend cotton yarn because it’s good for soaking up those dribbles; its “suckable”; chewable and washable! I have also tried a nice soft washable acrylic and this works well too. Very handy for a bit of stash busting or if you want to make a matching blanket for a new baby. There are four hat options included in the pattern. This, as with all my designs, is knitted flat and assembled. I have included a step by step assembly guide which is full of photos to help you. All babies have a favourite or special toy they attach to and want for comfort or snuggling down to sleep. How special would it be if your new little person chose your Cuddly as his favourite toy? Perhaps it would be best to make two the same in case one went missing!!
A gluten free Dutch baby, also called a German pancake, is a large, fluffy pancake with crisp edges. Make the simple batter in your blender, then bake it in a hot skillet, and breakfast is served!
Artist: Auguste Rodin (French, Paris 1840–1917 Meudon). Date: modeled ca. 1885, cast 1910. Culture: French. Medium: Bronze. Dimensions: Overall (wt. confi...
Jessie At Home features many free crochet & knit patterns & tutorials, along with some other crafts and occasional stories about being a mom of twins.
Yes, ANOTHER free printable this week. I know, if I could pinch you from here I would; free stuff is so dreamy! This is a quick matching manners worksheet I made tonight as a supplement to a Manner…
Make straw rockets! This simple rocket activity kept my crew busy for a long time, and it’s so simple to do! Blow into the straw and launch your rocket. Then do it again and again! We put these rockets together in about 10 min. The longest part was waiting for the glue gun to heat […]
From picture books to middle-grade memoirs to books just for parents—can help teach your kids how to prevent, handle and recover from bullying.
Did you know you could turn milk into plastic? I didn't. I had no idea! I did know that you can turn cream into butter, which is just what I was planning on doing with one of my Kindergarten classes back when I taught in the classroom. We love easy science experiments! There I was,
Just a pile of random and funny pictures
This hands-on sentence building activity is a fun Lego learning activity. Kids will have fun creating sentences in Lego Sentence Building.
