Are you still playing a role you learned in childhood to please others, such as the Good Girl/Boy, the Overachiever, or the Helper? Though these kinds of roles may have gained us attention and affection, they prohibited us from becoming our true selves.People-pleasing--putting others ahead of ourselves to avoid something negative or to get something we want or need--runs rampant in our society. Saying yes when we should say no leaves us stuck in frustrating patterns. And when we don't say yes authentically, we say it resentfully, which leads to more problems than if we'd said no in the first place.The Joy of Saying No will help you identify your people-pleasing style and habits. A six-step framework then teaches you how to discover the healing and transformative power of no to establish healthier boundaries, foster more intimate relationships and fulfilling experiences, and reconnect with your values and authentic self. Product DetailsISBN-13: 9780785290445 Media Type: Hardcover Publisher: Harper Horizon Publication Date: 01-10-2023 Pages: 240 Product Dimensions: 5.90(w) x 9.10(h) x 1.00(d)About the Author Natalie Lue is a writer, speaker, podcaster, artist, and founder of one of the longest running self-help blogs in the world, Baggage Reclaim and The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast. The British-born, Dublin, Ireland-raised author helps people understand how their emotional baggage is interfering with their ability to live their lives happily and authentically. Her advice has been featured in the New York Times, Forbes, NPR, USA Today, and the BBC, among many others. Natalie lives in Caterham, Surrey, on the edge of south London with her husband, two daughters, and cockerpoo.Table of Contents Table of Contents Introduction: Find Your Joy, Find Your No v Part 1 Greetings, People Pleaser 1 Are You a People Pleaser? 3 2 In the Beginning 13 Part 2 The Five Styles of People Pleasing 3 Gooding 33 4 Efforting 47 5 Avoiding 61 6 Saving 75 7 Suffering 89 Part 3 The Six Steps for Finding the Joy in No 8 Get to Know Your Pleaser 107 9 Recognize Your Baggage 123 10 Reparent Yourself 137 11 Make It a Desire, or Say No 157 12 Cut Back on Hinting 173 13 Learn from Eruptions and Challenges 189 Conclusion 207 Acknowledgments 213 Notes 219 Index 221 About the Author 227 Show More