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We look at how childhood trauma can impact you as an adult, leading to persistent feelings of loneliness.

The classic abusive relationship is characterized by a three-stage cycle that may or may not be visible to outsiders. Victim Beware: You are on an emotional roller coaster ride that will wear you down and deplete your self-esteem! The Tension-Building Stage: The angry person becomes increasingly controlling during this period, which may take days, weeks, or even years to evolve and progress. Limits are imposed on the partner. For example, the abuser may decide what clothes look "right" on the partner, or what image is portrayed. They may try to define whom the partner may or may not speak with and about what, etc. The control is insidious and progressive. As tension and control increase, the partner attempts to accommodate the abuser in order to keep peace, to please the abuser, or for some similar reason. Despite actions the partner takes, the abuser becomes increasingly remote, contemptuous, critical, preoccupied, or otherwise on edge. The tension and control increase until culminating in the abuse stage. The Abuse Stage: (Explosion) A major verbal, emotional or physically abusive incident occurs that was instigated by the abuser. A trivial event is often used to trigger the main event. The abuser actively looks for excuses to blow up over, and may set their partner up in a no-win situation. One angry man found reason to verbally abuse his girlfriend and destroy her property because he did not like the size of the pot she was boiling eggs in. Needless to say, the pot had nothing to do with anything. This opportunist had simply received a nod from a former lover, decided to change girlfriends, and wanted an out. The victim is often left feeling hurt - and confused. The Remorse Stage: (Honeymoon Period) Once the blows are delivered, the abuser is calmed. Having blown off steam and regaining composure, the abusive person is full of apologies and promises never to do "it" again - if the partner distances. The more distanced the victim, the more intensely the abuser pursues...and pursues...and pursues. The abuser can be so charming and complimentary, the codependent victim's heart breaks. There is a compelling need to believe their abuser's promises and pleas and take them back. The more codependent and insecure the partner, the more vulnerable they are to the partner's attentive remorse. Abusers during this phase are wonderful! A "normal" person is unlikely to be so compelling and persistent in winning over their partner's love - because they have no reason to be. As the relationship progresses, the abuse cycle typically escalates in intensity and in the temporal contiguity of its negative aspects. The abuse lasts longer and becomes more pronounced, while the loving remorse dwindles. The abuser loves a good challenge. The goal is to win the victim back, at any price. At a distance, the partner is perceived as emotionally "safe." The harder the abuser has to work to win back his or her victim, the more the victim is appreciated. Once the relationship resumes, the abuser's mistrust prompts their poor recall of any tender feelings. Their fear inevitably powers the resumption of the abuse cycle. (http://www.drirene.com/cyclesof.htm) Another image-

Find out is alcoholism hereditary, who are the adult children of alcoholics, their trauma and struggles, and how to help them and their parents.

Throughout our lives we go through many ups and downs. We experience nearly every emotion and strive to find true happiness. But what do true happiness mean? I believe it's little pieces of life that bring you joy and in turn give us happiness. Things that make us happy change over time. As a child a prized toy, a friend to play with, a day at the park, praise from a teacher or loved one can all bring happiness. As an adult our needs and expectations change. We want a good job, money in the bank, a nice home to live in, and what ever else we think will make our life happy. Lately I have been reflecting on what makes me happy, I have a few good friends that I love and appreciate, my mother who is my best friend, I have an amazing husband that loves me through all my flaws, I have three amazing child that yes can drive me batty but also make me proud to be their mom. The list can go on and on some little things some big things and could be completely different than what someone else may need to make them happy. Everyday it's important to wake up and be grateful for the things we have, take a moment and think about it. Don't think about anything else, put your problems aside and be truly grateful for what is good in your life. I've been doing this more lately and what I've noticed is I'm happier! I don't dwell on things that make me unhappy or stressed, I've always maintained that stress doesn't solve anything, action does. So if we are unhappy, we need to change things. Finding the little things is the best place to start. This week my youngest turned 12, it's the last year before all my children are either teens or adults. I have taken them and the memories with them for granted. I'm watching as my eldest turns into the most amazing woman I know, my middle child is making plans for her future and rediscovering her passion for art. Shes also teaching herself new things like the guitar, which I heard her playing tonight. Then my little one, he is the most caring person ever. He is mama's boy and so many times I was to busy or preoccupied to enjoy his hugs. I'm sure they will stop soon, but for now I have found a new happiness in his cuddles. Today I had a friend send me a quote, she said it made her think of me the minute she saw it. Reading it made me remember that I'm worthy, I make a difference, I love and am loved. Although my life has it's ups and downs, I know that this is my happiness. Knowing that I have all this in my life. I encourage each one of you reading this, take a moment and think of what you're grateful for at this moment. Find a little piece of happiness no matter what is happening in your life. The quote my friend sent me Many blessings to you all. I think you are all amazing. xoxo Charlotte

So you grew up with an alcoholic mom or dad—or both. Now you’re an adult with a list of issues caused by your experiences growing up in that environment. You’ve probably asked yourself some big questions: How do I heal from growing up this way? Where do I even begin to figure out what I...Read More

Have you ever felt like you were “walking on eggshells” or “waiting for the next bad thing to happen”? Are you always “going the extra mile” and doing everything you can possibly do to help avoid something bad happening? This is called being hypervigilant. Unfortunately, it is something many adult children of alcoholics experience every...Read More

So you grew up with an alcoholic mom or dad—or both. Now you’re an adult with a list of issues caused by your experiences growing up in that environment. You’ve probably asked yourself some big questions: How do I heal from growing up this way? Where do I even begin to figure out what I...Read More

Do you ever feel you’re drawn to the wrong kind of partner? Do you end up in the same kind of dead-end relationships? Are you in the right relationship, but facing one or more issues you know stem from your past experiences? Do you struggle to maintain long-term relationships? If you grew up with an...Read More

If you grew up with an alcoholic parent like I did, you might end up in grownup land believing one big lie: you’re responsible for taking care of your alcoholic mom or dad. You might have slipped into the role of caretaker early on. You might have found yourself caring for your siblings or even...Read More

Were you affected by your parent’s drinking problem when you were growing up? Being the child of an alcoholic affects how you think and live today as an adult – all these years later. Ever wondered how to even begin dealing with it? Your days are busy, and you don’t have time to focus on...Read More

Now is the perfect time to reflect on where you are on your healing journey as an adult child of an alcoholic (ACoA) and where you’d like to be. Creating a vision board is a useful tool to help you achieve your goals and dreams. I’ve been creating one annually the last five years or...Read More

Were you affected by your parent’s drinking problem when you were growing up? Being the child of an alcoholic affects how you think and live today as an adult – all these years later. Ever wondered how to even begin dealing with it? Your days are busy, and you don’t have time to focus on...Read More

My mom brought me an aloe plant for my new house. She thought I’d like to have it because I’m “the kind of person who’d like a cactus.” It’s not a cactus but I did not tell her that. It was sweet and it made me feel good, especially since I know that in the...Read More

For people who grew up with an alcoholic parent, healing from their past experiences is a complex journey that requires unlearning certain beliefs and behaviors. Here are 17 beliefs I had to unlearn to heal from my experience as the daughter of an alcoholic and create a life I love: These 17 beliefs had a...Read More

Were you affected by your parent’s drinking problem when you were growing up? Being the child of an alcoholic affects how you think and live today as an adult – all these years later. Ever wondered how to even begin dealing with it? Your days are busy, and you don’t have time to focus on...Read More

So, you’ve taken that brave leap toward healing as an adult child of an alcoholic. Congrats! The wheels are in motion now! This journey you’re on is all about healing, finding that inner peace you deserve and creating a life you love. It’s a path paved with self-discovery and growth. And guess what? As an...Read More

Do you ever feel you’re drawn to the wrong kind of partner? Do you end up in the same kind of dead-end relationships? Are you in the right relationship, but facing one or more issues you know stem from your past experiences? Do you struggle to maintain long-term relationships? If you grew up with an...Read More

So, you’re an adult child of an alcoholic. Now what? Here are the 5 things I did to kickstart my ACOA healing journey If you’re reading this, you’ve likely made a HUGE realization: You’re an adult child of an alcoholic. You’ve acknowledged that growing up with a parent with a substance abuse disorder impacted you…and...Read More

After you admit that someone else’s substance use disorder negatively affected you, good things happen, my friend. At 26 years old, I had spent my entire life believing that if my mother stopped drinking, life would be perfect. I believed that her drinking caused all pain and suffering for Mom, Dad, my sister and me....Read More

For many adult children of alcoholics (ACoA), it’s normal for the difficult experiences from childhood to last well into adulthood. If you’re hoping to find healing from growing up with an alcoholic parent, luckily, there are many support groups for adult children of alcoholics that can help. There has been nothing more impactful in my...Read More

Here is a list of great books for adult children of alcoholics (ACoAs). They tackle the topics of PTSD, childhood trauma, co-dependency and other issues caused from our childhood and adolescent experiences in a dysfunctional, chaotic and abusive home environment with an alcoholic mom or dad – or both. As the daughter of an alcoholic,...Read More

Codependency in marriage is often the result of childhood neglect. Here's how those experiences affect your choice to be in a codependent relationship as an adult.

For people who grew up with an alcoholic parent, healing from their past experiences is a complex journey that requires unlearning certain beliefs and behaviors. Here are 17 beliefs I had to unlearn to heal from my experience as the daughter of an alcoholic and create a life I love: These 17 beliefs had a...Read More