"Finally: an engaging, evidence-based book about how to battle biases, champion diversity and inclusion, and advocate for those who lack power and privilege. Dolly Chugh makes a convincing case that being an ally isn't about being a good person--it's about constantly striving to be a better person." --Adam Grant, New York Times bestselling author of Give and Take, Originals, and Option B with Sheryl Sandberg Foreword by Laszlo Bock, the bestselling author of Work Rules! and former Senior Vice President of People Operations at GoogleAn inspiring guide from Dolly Chugh, an award-winning social psychologist at the New York University Stern School of Business, on how to confront difficult issues including sexism, racism, inequality, and injustice so that you can make the world (and yourself) better.Many of us believe in equality, diversity, and inclusion. But how do we stand up for those values in our turbulent world? The Person You Mean to Be is the smart, "semi-bold" person's guide to fighting for what you believe in.Dolly reveals the surprising causes of inequality, grounded in the "psychology of good people". Using her research findings in unconscious bias as well as work across psychology, sociology, economics, political science, and other disciplines, she offers practical tools to respectfully and effectively talk politics with family, to be a better colleague to people who don't look like you, and to avoid being a well-intentioned barrier to equality. Being the person we mean to be starts with a look at ourselves.She argues that the only way to be on the right side of history is to be a good-ish-- rather than good--person. Good-ish people are always growing. Second, she helps you find your "ordinary privilege"--the part of your everyday identity you take for granted, such as race for a white person, sexual orientation for a straight person, gender for a man, or education for a college graduate. This part of your identity may bring blind spots, but it is your best tool for influencing change. Third, Dolly introduces the psychological reasons that make it hard for us to see the bias in and around us. She leads you from willful ignorance to willful awareness. Finally, she guides you on how, when, and whom, to engage (and not engage) in your workplaces, homes, and communities. Her science-based approach is a method any of us can put to use in all parts of our life.Whether you are a long-time activist or new to the fight, you can start from where you are. Through the compelling stories Dolly shares and the surprising science she reports, Dolly guides each of us closer to being the person we mean to be. Product DetailsISBN-13: 9780062692146 Media Type: Hardcover Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers Publication Date: 09-04-2018 Pages: 320 Product Dimensions: 6.30(w) x 9.00(h) x 1.20(d)About the Author Dr. Dolly Chugh is a Harvard educated, award-winning social psychologist at the NYU Stern School of Business, where she is an expert in the unconscious biases and unethical behavior of ordinary, good people.Table of Contents Table of Contents Foreword Laszlo Bock ix Preface xvii Introduction: Good-ish People 1 Part 1 Builders Activate a Growth Mindset Chapter 1 Stumbling Upward 23 Chapter 2 One of the "Good Guys" 44 Chapter 3 If You Are Not Part of the Problem, You Cannot Be Part of the Solution 59 Part II Builders See and Use Their Ordinary Privilege Chapter 4 Knowing It When You Don't See It 87 Chapter 5 The Power of Ordinary Privilege 111 Part III Builders Opt for Willful Awareness Chapter 6 Keep Your Eyes Open, Anyway 129 Chapter 7 Look Out for These Four "Good" Intentions 143 Part IV Builders Engage Chapter 8 Be Inclusive 167 Chapter 9 Steer the Conversation 183 Chapter 10 Educate and Occasionally Confront Others 205 Chapter 11 Show Meaningful Support 225 Acknowledgments 243 Notes 249 Index 271 Show More