all of these accounts are invaluable voices in the adoptee community ❤️
10 things not to say to your adopted children is great advice from an adoptee perspective. Be sure to check this out!!
10 common myths about open adoption and why they aren't true. Debunk these popular myths to educate yourself and your loved ones and to provide a strong open adoption foundation for your adopted kids.
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When we hear of a couple adopting a child, most of us imagine a happy and picture-perfect family. After all, an adopted child is the answer to many couples’ earnest desire to have a child. Adopted children are widely regarded as lucky, and in many ways, they are. Being adopted certainly has its benefits, primarily […]
'My son Wyatt (her adopted son) is all mine. Little souls find their way to you whether it's through your womb or someone else's.'-singer Cheryl Crow November is a special month for my (Becky's) family in many ways. Thanksgiving, deer hunting opener and my birthday are all crammed into an already hectic month. But another thing I love about the eleventh month of the year is the fact that it is National Adoption Month. Why is this significant? Because I am an adoptive parent! We adopted our son Jake at birth as a domestic adoption and also as a designated
Chaque année, plus de 10000 demandes d’adoption sont déposées en France, un chiffre qui a doublé en 15 ans. Quelle est la procédure qui permet d'adopter un enfant ?
As you know, November is National Adoption Month, and to honor this special holiday, we will be posting a new, helpful infographic every Wednesday this month. We hope these graphics will help you understand more about the adoption process and adoption in general.
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Anyone who has had pre-adoption training has heard about bonding and the attachment cycle. They have heard about how a baby has a need and expresses that need and how the parent meets the need and trust is developed. This weekend, amidst the ups and downs of parenting a bunch of teens, I realized that teens and preteens reenact the attachment cycle over and over again with a slight twist. Because their physical needs are now being met, they don’t have to worry about them any more. So instead, they test their attachment every time they make a mistake. So, the teen or preteen screws up. It can be something small, like manipulating by not telling the truth, or as big as getting arrested. Immediately, they go into a period not accepting responsibility and taking it out on their caregiver. This can take many forms. In my family alone, each person’s response is different. For one, it means sulking and whining. For another it means continuous arguing and not relenting. For another it means blaming me for the way I handled the confrontation. For another it means slamming doors, kicking walls. For another it means getting very angry at the person that reported their wrongdoing. I think you get the picture. This part of the cycle can last for minutes or for days. It is a relentless unwillingness to accept responsibility, apologize and move on. It takes many forms. Finally, though, the teen, often when they need something, must rebuild the relationship and move on. So they apologize. And, we forgive. And then they realize, “Hey, they really do love me! They’re not giving up! I didn’t screw up so bad that I can’t be forgiven!” Trust is once again rebuilt and they are calm again . . . until the next time they make a mistake and it starts all over again. If you have heard the song “We Live” by Superchick you know that the song has a circular melody. It keeps repeating itself just as the pattern of forgiving teens must repeat itself in the lives of adoptive parents. We live, we love, we forgive and never give up Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above And today we remember to live and to love Those lyrics have been going around and around in my head as I have gone around and around the teen attachment cycle these last days. The key is to not get caught up in the myriad details, but to simply remember that each day is a test. My kids are saying to me, “will you continue to love me no matter what? Will you accept me even if I don’t please you? Are you really there forever?” And so just as a new parent dances the dance of attachment with a newborn, we who adopt older children must dance the attachment dance with teens. Just as a new parent is exhausted with the strain of caring for a newborn, we are exhausted with the stress of going through the cycle of blame and hatred day after day. But just as the parent of a newborn cannot get into the mode of blaming a newborn for expressing their need for a clean diaper or a bottle, neither can we get caught up in blaming an adopted teen for expressing their need for unconditional commitment and love. And finally, we cannot have expectations that are too high for our teens just like a parent of a newborn cannot demand, after six months, that the baby start feeding themselves or changing their open diaper. I don’t know how old a child has to be before they fully believe we will love them forever. I have heard it said that it is double the number of years they lived without a family (thus, an 11 year old will feel like a member of the family when he/she hits 22). But I think for each kid it may be different, and for some people, it may take a lifetime. For several years I think I was trying to stop the cycle. I was trying to prevent it from beginning by keeping my kids from making mistakes, hoping to avoid the trip around the forgiveness merry go round, especially the blaming, raging part. But I’m coming to realizes that I’d have no more luck getting a newborn to stop needing to be fed and changed. And so I’ll keep on keeping on, recognizing one more piece of the puzzle that helps me to patiently do an exhausting tasks with results that are long in coming. And I will remind myself that none of my teens chose to enter the world as a baby that nobody picked up and held. They didn’t choose to have birthparents who were addicted to drugs or alcohol. They didn’t ask to scream and cry and not be cuddled, changed and fed. They simply arrived on this earth like we all did and didn’t get what they should have. And so it’s my responsibility to make it up to them. And what I wasn’t there to do with bottles and clean diapers, I’ll do with enduring their rage and forgiving them again and again until they discover that they are worthy of love and that there is someone committed to them forever.
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Adopted children often have amazing, but broken stories. Though their stories can be encouraging to others, it is so important that adoptive parents don't share too much information, and allow their children to share their own stories.
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We all want our kids to jump in and read their Bible every day. However, we also know that our kids are busier than a telemarketer at family dinner time, and setting up a routine for scripture reading can be a difficult task for families. Hosting a Bible Buddy Adoption could help the families in […]
-Me and my hubs at our 4th child's gender reveal photo shoot. This was the first time we did a photo announcement, including the gender of the baby we were matched with. - Dear Sugar, Today I'm tackling a question many of you have asked: Should I announce an adoption match? One year ago this month, we were matched with an expectant couple due in September. This was our longest match, and I was a mess. In fact, I did the thing I said I would never do. I fell in love with a baby who wasn't mine. This wasn't our first rodeo. After all, we had already adopted three children. But the fourth adoption was particularly challenging, mostly because the match seemed endless. And I had already told God: no out-of-state matches, no long matches. I want easy-peasy. Got it? Get that, Sugar? I told God. Then God laughed. Amen? Moving on. With our first two adoptions, we didn't tell anyone we were matched (with babies already born) until after we went to court. Call it not wanting to jinx anything or just being very very respectful of the biological families...but we didn't. With our third, we had about two-and-a-half month match. We told our families and close friends. We let them know the baby was a boy. And then we went nuts. Everyone wanted to know the name, had a hard time keeping their mouths shut. Their anticipation only added to my anticipation. And when I say anticipation, I meant anxiety. With our fourth baby, we did tell our family and close friends. The match was long, and keeping the match a secret was nearly impossible, especially after we told our children what was going on. Plus, we're really big on "no secrets" in terms of our kids' safety and well-being. We even did a gender reveal photo shoot (see pic above). There is no right or wrong to telling others that you're matched, but I will say these are lines I think an ethical, hopeful parent shouldn't cross: -calling the baby yours. The baby isn't yours. The pregnancy isn't yours. The baby is a possibility and a hope. -calling the baby's mother "our" birth mother. The baby's mother is the baby's mother, not a birth mother (if and until she places). And the "our" is just weird. She's not YOUR birth mother or mother. She's the baby's. The baby is hers. -claiming any sort of control over the mother's life or pregnancy. You might be invited to an ultrasound, to be part of the baby's birth, etc., but you are not in control. The reins aren't yours to hold. -respecting your possible-future-child's privacy, starting now. Keep the private, private. Whatever you put "out there" in terms of information about your (possible) child's birth family can never be taken back. Remember my motto: don't hand out a child's story like a grandma hands out cookies! -having a baby shower specific to the baby you are matched with. Don't get bibs with the baby's name monogrammed on them, for example. It's ok to be excited, but there is no guarantee of placement, no matter how certain and convinced you're told the expectant mother is. Of course, each situation is very different, and there aren't any definites in terms of feelings and the closeness of the relationships. But there are ethical boundaries to keep in mind, something I've written about here and elsewhere. Balance isn't easy, and I've been totally transparent with you about that. But you must strive for ethics, always. Adopting isn't about how quickly and easily you can become a mom. It's about the child and the relationship you will forever have (whether distant or tight-knit) with his or her first parent(s). No amount of announcing (or not) guarantees the placement will happen. So I urge you to move forward with grace. If you are matched, proceed with caution and the utmost respect for the expectant parent(s)---which, essentially, is the utmost respect for the child. Be excited, but be ever-mindful that you are not yet mom. Fall in love, as I did, with the one who isn't yours, knowing that if the match results in a placement, you loved with reckless abandon while still respecting each person.
Having adoption books for kids helps them to better understand their story and to ask questions and be able to talk openly about it. It helps them to know that there are other children who have also been adopted.
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I've posted this list before...but now that adoption is a reality in our lives I think it is even more important for this list to reach all those we know and love. We haven't been on the receiving end of too many hurtful comments...but when we first got Miles I can't tell you how many times close friends and family said things like "Did you meet his real mother?" or "He is so cute, how could she have given him away?" or "I love my babies too much...I could never give them away like that." Right now it's just ME that gets my feelers prickled...but in a few years when Miles starts hearing this kind of talk...that will make me one pissed off momma bear. He was NOT given away...his birthmom DOES love him...and {{I}} am his REAL mother (seriously...I have a court document that says I'm a mother...do you?? he he...I jest. Kinda) So here is a list Adoptive Families Magazine put out a few years ago. It's simple...and has most of the offensive phrases. You love us? Ok..maybe, but I KNOW you love Miles. :) Read it. Pass it along.
Can you homeschool an adopted child? The short answer is yes, but here are some tips and things to think about before choosing this method of education plus, some other adoption resources.
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Creating a Family, the national adoption, and foster care education & support nonprofit, provides trauma-informed & expert-based resources on domestic infant adoption, foster care adoption, international adoption, adopting a relative from abroad, fostering/foster parent resources, embryo donation/adoption, attachment, transracial adoption, adoptive parenting and talking with children about adoption, and parenting children who have experienced trauma.
MLJ Adoptions is celebrating as our first family has finalized their legal adoption process in Burkina Faso! We are excited about the future of the program.
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