I had to stop using my trauma as a get-out-of-jail-free card for personal responsibility. I had to realize that everything that was ever, is now, or will ever be out of my control is STILL my responsibility to deal with. This includes: -Trauma -Pain -Circumstances -Abusive Parents -Abusive Siblings -Abusive (Insert Anyone) -Being Bullied -Station (If it is not your choice or how you think about things... it is on this list) This allows you to make choices without allowing the entire world to hav