The first step in solving a problem in your relationship is to recognize the problem. The second step is to recognize who caused the problem. from time to time a problem in your relationship is the result of outside influences or lack of communication. The third step is to come up with a plan to solve the problem. Take some time to sit down with your spouse and come up with a list of solutions to the problem. The fourth step is to take action. suchlike solution you and your partner have decided, you both need to begin to determine the problem. The fifth step is to forgive. forgive and forget yourself and the person who created the problem. The reason that you want to forgive is to keep your heart clean, re-establish your relationship, and avoid making decisions out of anger. The sixth step is to hold each other responsible. Depending on the nature of the problem, you want to hold that person responsible for the changes that they need to make. When holding your partner responsible please make sure that your actions and the words that you speak are from a place of love.